As people exiting childhood we are all nothing but products of our lives to that point--DNA, upbringing, significant people, significant events, the broader cultural environment, etc. I suspect that for most of these fellows it is self-loathing bound up in an ongoing oedipal thing of some kind--but then I think that is the most probable explanation for most maladjusted males. Perhaps I have been overly influenced by that movie, We Need to Talk About Kevin (sic). Being completely honest, the biggest difference between them and me in my late teens/early adulthood as far as relations with females would be concerned was a lack of misogyny--perhaps due to a lack of any sense of being denied some entitlement to the enjoyment of females' bodies. Such a thing is surely something that never once entered my mind--but then I grew up with four sisters (one twin, the rest of them older than me).